(Cicily
Sunny is a New York City teacher and the author of two
books, "The Thoughts of an Indian in America" and a marriage
counseling book, "What God has Joined Together.")
1) Be friendly to men in the same measure as you are friendly to women.
2) Understand that men are showing their friendship while shaking hands with you or putting hands around you while taking pictures in public. Don’t give a chance for your ego to be offended or sensitivity to be provoked.
3) If you are too sensitive to a man’s proximity, you should shy away from the public or directly express your dislike.
4) Learn from the openness and innocence of the American-born youth in their approach to others.
5) Be bold and have the decency to address your grievances directly to men instead of bashing and disgracing them publicly, especially through Face book.
6) You can be smart by addressing a concept generally, which brings more positive effect, than targeting an individual, which creates destruction, division and hatred.
7) Understand that a man has different titles like husband, father, grandfather, uncle, brother etc. It is immature and foolish to label every man’s approach as sexual. Please do not include all men in one category.
8) Scaring men away through nastiness is not a good tactics. Let them get attracted to your personality through your behavior.
9) For more respect, try to have your husband with you when you appear in public occasions.
10) Feel relaxed around men for better approval and friendship. A divorcee may be over reactive or over sensitive to other men, whereas a married or unmarried woman may be more relaxed. Your over sensitiveness does not mean that all men around you are criminals.